“The major civilizing force in the world is not religion, it is sex.”
Sex today isn’t just for baby-making. According to a 2010 Sexuality & Culture review of sexual motivation studies by Richard Carroll, people are offering “far more reasons for choosing to engage in sexual activity than in former times.” Dr. Elaine Hatfield suggests that “sexual motives may well be shaped by culture and may become more complex with age, experience, and with the duration of a relationship.” Below are 5 reasons people are choosing to have sex that have nothing to do with procreation.
The More You Know
First of all, surveys of undergraduate students conducted over the past few years have shown sheer curiosity was listed as a factor in engaging in a sexual act. Both men and women want to engage in new experiences which include getting it on.
Sex to get Ahead
While not the most noble of sexual pursuits. Dr. Hatfield’s research found that people “mentioned using sex to get a job, a promotion, money”. Hence discovering “that men confessed to having sex for financial reasons more often than did women!”
It Makes Us Feel Good on the Inside
Sex can go a long way in relieving stress, anxiety, and depression. “Stress reduction is one of the leading reasons Americans, particularly men, say they have sex” says Richard Carroll.
It Makes Us Feel Good on the Outside
Sex for pleasure isn’t limited to penetration. Touching, kissing, oral sex, anal sex, and foreplay are all things that can bring great ecstasy to the human body. Hatfield writes that “the primary reason both men and women engage in one-night stands is that they are pleasurable”. In conclusion, the bottom line is sex feels good. #adultsexedmonth
We Want to Feel Closer to Our Partner
Sex can improve the quality of a relationship. It can be a way to express intimacy and closeness with the one you love. According to research published by Dr. Hatfield “An awareness of one’s partner‘s sexual motives may also facilitate communication.”. Additionally, the better the communication between partners, the higher satisfaction with the relationship in general.